I have been wanting to do a post about dealing with internet jealousy for a long time. Then this morning on Twitter I see that @SisterDiane has a great discussion about dealing with internet jealousy over at Google+. Join in on the discussion here! I hopped on over to the discussion and it was refreshing to see so many bloggers feel the same way. It's so easy to think it's just you!
As a blogger who writes about my business, it is very tricky to post about the down and dirty realities of running your own business as an artist. As with any business there are the highs and the accomplishments, but there are also times filled with worry, heartbreak and self doubt. This year has not been pretty for me. I've have a few business deals fall through, things I had high hopes for but for whatever reason they didn't work out. There have been many tears shed and rethinking of my work and my life. I hesitate to post about it here on my blog because I don't want to appear as though I am whining about things that haven't worked out, and for the fear that it would make me look undesirable to future clients. It's a very tricky balance to share the ups and downs of business and maintain a professional blog and I think most bloggers prefer to show the shiny side of their business and life.
So what to do when blog envy rears it's ugly head? Don't miss this post over at Helen Jane where she has a little guide to help you heal from the pain of blog comparison.
#3 in her list "Everyone is having a hard time of it" is especially true. I think about this when Blog Envy starts bubbling up. Remember what you are seeing on blogs is a filtered view of someone's life. They share the success, the beautiful photos, the great decor in their homes. Meanwhile they are like the rest of us with junk drawers, messy closets, life, business and family issues.
They've got a great discussion over on Google+ so check it out there and I'd love to hear your thoughts on blog envy and how you cope/deal or avoid it!
I am so glad that you as a pro are admitting to this issue.
May we all pull through and support eachother and realize that NOONE is perfect!
I think you're right that there is a fine line in the blogging world but it's also good to post some of the negatives about your life and business - with the size of your audience you can show that life is not always all milk and honey.
If one plan goes awry another will follow that even better.
April - i love your idea of a "laundry day" for bloggers! that is brilliant!
I thought it would be hard to envy.
I love your work and I have your book. Kind regards Janet Keen Rotorua,New Zealand
Thanks for this...I needed to hear it too !! I have to admit I have envied the beautiful posts and seemingly perfect lives that others lead, yours seemed to be among them ( you are so talented !) It's been a hard year for me as well in dealing with business disappointments, deals falling through...many tears cried and a rally to push onward, doing what I know I'm meant to do.
It feels so much better knowing that I am not the only one feeling this way and keeping it 'real' so I don't always have to sound like a 'Pollyanna' :)) xoxo, Paulette
More creativity all around!
Thanks so much for the link.
Also I'm glad I'm not a young mom today! I think I'd have to look great, cook fabulous meals, do amazing crafts for my home and family, and run a business, all while being incredibly organized and recording my daily life in scrapbooks. Ha! Too much pressure! Pinterest and blogs can be inspirational but also make people feel awfully inadequate.